Why Do Some People Get Burned Out?

I have the privilege to travel internationally and speak at events where people want to make a change in their lives. One thing that I have learned is that many people are seeking to help and serve others, yet far too often they find themselves burned out. They often explain to me how they spend so much time serving and helping others, that they feel empty.

My response? I hope this is as helpful to you as is was for my friend Connie who said that this one response I shared with her a few years ago has had a tremendous impact in every singe relationship and area of her life. The reason being, as Connie put it, was that with this new knowledge, she could better see things as they really are.

So what was it? What I said was this:

If you feel more fulfilled after helping another, then it is a good sign of true giving. If you feel drained, it may not have been giving for the right reasons.
That is something to keep in mind when serving others. We must remember, that obligational serving or exchange serving, will never fulfill.
So let’s remember to give without expecting. This is how we begin to align with the Primary Laws of Success™ that I speak about at my 3 Day Event called The Answer to Everything™.
If we want optimal results, then we must keep our intent pure.
~ Brandon Broadwater

How to Know If a Person is Truly Ready to Change

Wouldn’t it be great to know when somebody is truly ready for a change?

There are three key things to look for before somebody will change. This knowledge has forever changed my outcomes in life. Especially when dealing with problematic relationships.

What do you do if you get burned? What happens when somebody makes a mistake? Do you jump in and suport, or it it time to let the person walk their own path?

Well, I have great news! There is a way! There is a way to predict the future about whether or not a person is on the path of changing things for the better.

There are three ways to predict if a person is going to change:
I call this the Triad of Recovery™.
1) They feel remorseful.
2) They openly and publicly admit to their mistake (without provocation or getting caught… and not as a one time occasion of admittance either).
3) They forsake their behavior.

A person needs ALL THREE to qualify for a real change. These are indicators and qualifiers that allow you to see with clarity… the condition of the heart and mind of an individual.

For example, when a person is desensitized to the level of not being remorseful, that is a red flag that they are not interested in changing. Their words may say “sorry” when caught, but their actions do not… and will not… change.

One person I know recently made some devastating decisions when he cheated on his wife. He doesn’t even have one of the three signs that he will change. That is a sure sign that he is not truly ready to give up his pleasures. For the time being, he will, with 100% predictability, return to his pleasures.

All hope is not lost though… because in these cases, sometimes the Universe will in due time, send some very painful spankings to help the person’s heart to be softened enough to desire a change. Good thing we have the mechanics of the Universe working for our good.

At the same time, the Universe will allow us to fall… in order to respect our unlimited potential. Our unlimited potential, I might add, and the possibility thereof, hinges upon our ability to choose. In other words, the Universe will allow us to choose for ourselves. Yet we cannot choose our individual consequences because they are a secondary by-products of our initial choices. And we do have a choice with those.

Those three qualifying principles above in the Triad of Recovery have saved me many times in life. They have helped me to know what type of person I am dealing with. It has allowed me to see into their heart and the intent thereof. Interestingly enough, they might not even be conscious of their readiness for change. Meaning they are fooling themselves in their half-hearted attempt to change. Yet with these three qualifying principles that make up the Triad of Recovery, I have been able to get out of the way when bigger problems are yet to come.

I hope this knowledge will help you to better identify where a person’s heart is at, even though it may sometimes be your own heart. I know that this knowledge will help penetrate through the midst of problems and excuses… to see things as they really are.

PS – by the way, this is also what I do to myself, to “measure up” and see what’s holding me back.

Critical Nutrients to Have More Love in Your Life

I have noticed that the Morning Empowerment Ritual™ makes a tremendous difference for Lesly and I each day that we do them.
Seriously, Connie (who runs our Higher Laws® for Women group Coaching) attributes her awesome relationship to three things:
1) Recognizing that it must start with yourself
2) Use the 3rd question in the “Morning Empowerment Ritual™
3) Verbalize why you are grateful for your partner (with touch so the Masculine can internalize the words)
In summary, if you do these three things, you will have an incredible foundation and critical nutrients to have more love in your life.
If you want, you can come chill with me under some palm trees in my backyard for about five minutes while I talk about them.
Brandon Broadwater

How to Beat Burnout? A Woman’s Perspective

Connie Benjamin from HigherLaws.com interviews Lori Raudnask about Beating Burnout.

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  • What are Burnout beating questions to ask yourself?
  • How to know your boundaries …
  • A tool that absolutely ensures you will not get burnt out.
  • What is the magic question to beat stress?

Enjoy this interview!