The problem of struggle, as I like to call it. I DESCRIBE It WITH THE questions listed below.
Q1. Why do bad things happen to good people?
Q2. Why is there evil in the world?
Q3. If there is a God, how could he let this happen?
Q4. I didn’t deserve this, why me?
There they are . . . It is questions like this that we may ask ourselves, The Universe, and others.
Several times life has thrown me a curveball. Once I not only swung and missed… but that curveball hit me square in the face.
Have you ever had experiences like that?
You may be standing at the plate with perfect form. You are wearing your best uniform. You have studied all the strategy and technique. You know your competition, are better than them and are eagerly awaiting so you can just knock it out of the park?
Then all of a sudden the baseball hits you square between the eyes.
Life has a way of sneaking up on us like that, doesn’t it?
We think we are prepared, then BAM! We get knocked to our knees only to be left to claw our way back.
So what is the deal with this opposition, struggle, and even at times failure?
What is the point?
I believe there is a purpose to pain, I believe that there is substance to suffering, I believe there is meaning in misery.
Because the universe is much more interested in our character than our checking account. The universe is much more concerned with our attributes than our affluence.
If we don’t pick up on this we will find ourselves forever chasing something that is just out of reach, or worse yet, we may attain that which we seek, only for us to lose it.
What is the lesson?
It’s that life is always happening for us not just to us.
This is one of the hardest mindsets to keep in place. Because the times we need to remember it most is when we are going through the divorce. It is when we are going through the bankruptcy. It is when we are going through the death of a loved one. It is when our health fails us. It is when our business ventures crash and burn.
Those are the times to remember this lesson.
“It will be very interesting one day to follow the pattern of our life as it is spread out like a beautiful tapestry. As long as we live here we see only the reverse side of the weaving, and very often the pattern, with its threads running wildly, doesn’t seem to make sense. Someday, however, we shall understand. In looking back over the years we can discover [the threads that go] through the pattern of our life.”
We will find that the times of struggle and difficulty created a strength inside us, strength earned through grit and determination. One that sculpts and shapes who we are. Without it, we would be incomplete.
We go through struggle and trials in our life not just for our own benefit but for that of others. I believe we go through such trying times for this cause.
Once we have made it to the other side of opposition, then we can help others get to where we are. Once we have made it through our darkness we can shine a light to those who have not yet found their way.
Look at one of the most successful addiction recovery programs out there, Alcoholics Anonymous. What is their 12th step in their famous “12 step process?”
To help another alcoholic.
Oftentimes we fail and pass through difficulty so that we can level up so that we can get stronger. But I also believe that once we have achieved that strength it is our calling and responsibility to turn around and do the same for others. Because we have an enduring strength that was forged in the fires of failure and adversity.
As with all circumstances and situations in life… we can choose the meaning that we associate with such events. We can choose to become embittered in trying times, or we can choose to rise up.
We can choose to become better, rather than letting our adversity break us.
I make this case that failure and adversity can, and likely will be a meaningful teacher for us at times in our life. However, I do want to labor the point that learning through soul-stretching, will-testing, failure, and opposition is not the only way to learn. In fact, there are elements that can be expedited. There are Higher Laws to be learned and more efficient ways to achieve what we hope to achieve.
If you have failed a time or two in your life, take heart, you have friends. If you have failed or are currently failing at some aspect of your life, it is up to you to see that the failure becomes a training and testing ground, rather than a graveyard for whatever endeavor you are striving for.
There are times where failure prepares us to help ourselves and help others in our journey to master our power within. There are times where failure is the required price to get through to the next level. So don’t waste your failure, rather use it as a springboard to move you forward.
When we have been to the deepest darkest places, we then are capable of lifting ourselves, and others to the highest places.
The best is always yet to come.