Please Fail

The problem of struggle, as I like to call it. I DESCRIBE It WITH THE questions listed below.

Q1. Why do bad things happen to good people?

Q2. Why is there evil in the world?

Q3. If there is a God, how could he let this happen?

Q4. I didn’t deserve this, why me?

There they are . . . It is questions like this that we may ask ourselves, The Universe, and others.

Several times life has thrown me a curveball. Once I not only swung and missed… but that curveball hit me square in the face.

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Have you ever had experiences like that?

You may be standing at the plate with perfect form. You are wearing your best uniform. You have studied all the strategy and technique. You know your competition, are better than them and are eagerly awaiting so you can just knock it out of the park?

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Then all of a sudden the baseball hits you square between the eyes.

Life has a way of sneaking up on us like that, doesn’t it?

We think we are prepared, then BAM! We get knocked to our knees only to be left to claw our way back.

So what is the deal with this opposition, struggle, and even at times failure?

What is the point?

I believe there is a purpose to pain, I believe that there is substance to suffering, I believe there is meaning in misery.

Why?

Because the universe is much more interested in our character than our checking account. The universe is much more concerned with our attributes than our affluence.

If we don’t pick up on this we will find ourselves forever chasing something that is just out of reach, or worse yet, we may attain that which we seek, only for us to lose it.

What is the lesson?

It’s that life is always happening for us not just to us.

This is one of the hardest mindsets to keep in place. Because the times we need to remember it most is when we are going through the divorce. It is when we are going through the bankruptcy. It is when we are going through the death of a loved one. It is when our health fails us. It is when our business ventures crash and burn.

Those are the times to remember this lesson.

Maria Augusta von Trapp, the real person who inspired the story behind the movie classic The Sound of Music, said it this way,

“It will be very interesting one day to follow the pattern of our life as it is spread out like a beautiful tapestry. As long as we live here we see only the reverse side of the weaving, and very often the pattern, with its threads running wildly, doesn’t seem to make sense. Someday, however, we shall understand. In looking back over the years we can discover [the threads that go] through the pattern of our life.”

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We will find that the times of struggle and difficulty created a strength inside us, strength earned through grit and determination. One that sculpts and shapes who we are. Without it, we would be incomplete.

We go through struggle and trials in our life not just for our own benefit but for that of others. I believe we go through such trying times for this cause.

Once we have made it to the other side of opposition, then we can help others get to where we are. Once we have made it through our darkness we can shine a light to those who have not yet found their way.

Look at one of the most successful addiction recovery programs out there, Alcoholics Anonymous. What is their 12th step in their famous “12 step process?”

To help another alcoholic.

Oftentimes we fail and pass through difficulty so that we can level up so that we can get stronger. But I also believe that once we have achieved that strength it is our calling and responsibility to turn around and do the same for others. Because we have an enduring strength that was forged in the fires of failure and adversity.

As with all circumstances and situations in life… we can choose the meaning that we associate with such events. We can choose to become embittered in trying times, or we can choose to rise up.

We can choose to become better, rather than letting our adversity break us.

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I make this case that failure and adversity can, and likely will be a meaningful teacher for us at times in our life. However, I do want to labor the point that learning through soul-stretching, will-testing, failure, and opposition is not the only way to learn. In fact, there are elements that can be expedited. There are Higher Laws to be learned and more efficient ways to achieve what we hope to achieve.

What’s next

In fact, we cover more of those Higher Laws, in our event Master Your Power Within®. So come join us at our next event. Book your space here.

If you have failed a time or two in your life, take heart, you have friends. If you have failed or are currently failing at some aspect of your life, it is up to you to see that the failure becomes a training and testing ground, rather than a graveyard for whatever endeavor you are striving for.

There are times where failure prepares us to help ourselves and help others in our journey to master our power within. There are times where failure is the required price to get through to the next level. So don’t waste your failure, rather use it as a springboard to move you forward.

When we have been to the deepest darkest places, we then are capable of lifting ourselves, and others to the highest places.

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The best is always yet to come.

 

Cheers!

 

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The Art of Getting Their Attention

Wouldn’t it be great to be able to, almost magically, hold and direct the attention of anyone you ever communicate with?

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To be able to make sure that your sales prospect is listening to every recommendation?

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To ensure that the members of the next audience you speak to will be at the edge of their seat?

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To make sure that your spouse or partner is not tuning you out?

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If even just one of those things sounds good to you, then read on!

 

There is something that every great public speaker, every great sales professional, and every great teacher has learned. Some of them have consciously, and purposefully learned it, and others may have just picked it up without knowing consciously what it is.

Around here at Master Your Power Within, we are not into just rolling the dice to see how things work out. We have learned that it is much better to consciously learn and implement strategies for personal development and business improvement.

There are hordes of mediocre public speakers, mediocre sales professionals, and mediocre teachers. The problem is that these people may be incredibly intelligent people. They likely are highly knowledgeable and may even know more than the great people I talked about before.

The problem oftentimes lies in the delivery of information.

 

If you were incredible at making pizza, but when it would get delivered to a customer it ended up looking like this . . .

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You likely wouldn’t have repeat customers.

 

Delivery matters.

 

So it is with the information that we convey. Whether that is in a sales conversation, getting a date, or educating about a complex topic. We must know how to hold our listener’s attention in such a way that they are eager and hungry to know what we are going to say.

The challenge with this delivery comes oftentimes in terms of us striking the right balance. Once we learn about this simple strategy it can be relatively easy to make a person hungry for our information, but we can run the risk of dragging it out too long until they are starving. Or we may do the polar opposite and try to feed those who are already full.

What is this strategy we are talking about here?

 

It is called “Pre-Framing”

 

No, we are not talking about a “groundbreaking solution in construction to frame walls on-site 10x faster and more precisely.” Like a quick google search may lead you to believe.

 

We ARE talking about influencing the frame of mind of another.

 

Whether you want to admit it or not, you begin every conversation with some sort of conscious or unconscious objective in mind. Whether that is to close a sale, get a date, or just get directions to that new pizza place.

*****When we talk about influence I feel it is important to discuss and qualify the term “Influence.” We are definitely not talking about brainwashing, subliminal programming, or manipulative devices. What is going unsaid here is that all of us here at Master Your Power Within assume that skills of influence are going to be used for good. Some of the ways Brandon Broadwater uses influence skills is to serve, Brandon will use influence skills to keep audiences engaged in learning material that can change their life, or he will use influence skills to help others to break unhealthy habits that some people have carried with them for decades, or influence others to make a life altering change. As with most powerful tools, influence can be used for good or ill, let’s make sure you are using it to serve the world in positive ways. Deal? ;)*****

 

Some quality, intentional pre-framing can go a long way in influencing another.

 

Pre-Framing is the act by which you seek to influence the conscious or subconscious decisions of another.

 

Just the other day my 4-year old little girl came to me with some killer pre-frames.

Her: “Hey Dad!” (Pre-Frame #1)

Me: “What sweetheart?”

Her: “Since I have been soooo good today, and since I have folded the towels, and been nice to my sister, can I watch a show?” (Pre-Frame #2)

Me: “How can I say no to that.”

Her: “Thanks Dad!”

 

That is a rather simple set of Pre-Frames, albeit cute, but simple. Let’s talk about a few more examples and then we can dive into specific strategies you can use to start “Pre-Framing.”

 

If I were to introduce a lecturer to you by saying, “Today we are going to hear from John Doe who got his PhD in Theoretical Physics. I was in his graduating a class, and I have it on good authority that he plagiarized his thesis from Einstein’s work.” How are you going to feel about ol’ John Doe?

Now if I were to say it simply a little differently it may entirely change the outcome of your perception.

“Today we are going to hear from John Doe who got his PhD in Theoretical Physics. I was in his graduating class and I thought that his thesis was akin to Einstein’s work. In fact, I would say it bears many similarities.”

How does that change your perception of John Doe? Probably a little different than the first go around right?

Those are two contrasting Pre-Frames of John Doe.

 

So how would YOU Pre-Frame an idea or concept?

 

Let me share with you Brandon Broadwater’s formula for introducing an idea or topic.

 

1. Explain the negative consequences of not having the idea/concept in your life in a worrisome way.

2. Explain the positive results and outcomes of having the idea/concept in your life in an intriguing way.

3. After explaining 1 and 2 say, “And it is just one thing . . . “

4. Then deliver on the idea/concept.

 

For example:

[Step 1]There is something that if you don’t have in your life, you are going to experience a great deal of pain. Maybe not at first, but over time you will feel it take an increasing toll on your body and mind. You will start to feel a level of discomfort, and you will likely end up not getting very far.

[Step 2] On the other hand if you have this one thing, you will find yourself able to climb mountains and walk the streets with a level of confidence that you likely wouldn’t have otherwise. You will be able to avoid the pain and medical issues that others may have without this. Your body will be in better alignment. You will be able to make a fashion statement if you so desire, and you can take your pick of a great variety of different options.

[Step 3] And it is just one thing . . .

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[Step 4] A Pair of Shoes”

 

Who knew a pair of shoes could be so intriguing?

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Like I said before, it is all about the delivery.

 

Now that I have brought this up you will likely start to notice Pre-Frames everywhere. Those who are skilled at influence use them frequently.

*A word of caution*

It is easy to get carried away with Pre-Frames. I have been to trainings that were just one big Pre-Frame for an upsold product or course. The actual “training” I attended did not teach me anything, or give value, it was just Pre-Framing for the next course. Don’t do that.

So how are you going to start Pre-Framing?

 

Give us a good Pre-Frame in the comments below.

 

To learn more about Pre-Framing and other influence tools and strategies, come to one of our live events, or hop on a personal results call.

Vanessa… paid off $85,000 her debt in 12 months

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Vanessa is a Master Your Power Within® graduate from Saskatoon, Canada with some impressive results in her life because of Higher Laws.

Take special note of one particular result. How much of her $100,000 debt did she pay down within 12 months of her first MPW?

“Following these Higher Laws and living them daily has changed my life in amazing ways. I was close to $100,000 in debt one year ago. Today I have cleared $85,000 of my debt load.” ~ Vanessa Laflamme

 

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{This is her comment form from the second Master Your Power Within® she ever attended. Keep in mind that she learned very clearly the Higher Laws that would create the results that she watched flood into her life in the coming 12 months. They sure did… congrats Vanessa!]

Some people will discount and doubt that this can happen. Fortunately for Vanessa and others with their own impressive debt paydown results, this is real. Her literal testimonial is above. 

Are you in debt, or know someone that is? Is it time for that to stop?

If so is it worth 3 days to learn the principles that Vanessa and many others have to turn their debt on its head? 

PS – Request a Complimentary Results Strategy Session to learn how you do the same thing